The orientation of the Narm method is directed towards developmental trauma. It deals with our core needs: The need for contact, attunement, autonomy, love and sexualtity. If these needs are not met adequately when we are young, we delvelop adaptive personalities that are not helpful when we are adults and can lead to sympoms and suffering. No or difficult relationships, not being in contact with our ressources, not being able to feel and articulate needs and boundaries, being afraid of intimacy can be consequences.
The personality structures are divided into five adaptive survival styles having their roots in different developmental stages of our lives.
We look at the bonding dynamics – what was missing then? How did we loose the contact to ourselves, the contact to our needs? How did we compensate? What kind of conclusions do we draw today? What kind of messages do we interprete from that, that influence our feelings and actions? What kind of influence does that have on our self-awareness, on our perception and experience of others and the world?
The orientation is the here and now. We are interested in what is in the way to be in contact with ourselves and others. We give space to what comes up in the here and now in order to recognise, dignify and feel the underlying feelings, interpretations and the core dilemma back then. We always bring in the adult.
The goal is selfregulation, establishing the contact to ourselves, others and the world and our inherent lifeforce and vulnerability.